As I enter my second round at toddlerhood, I’m trying to mentally prepare myself for what I can confidently say is the hardest part of motherhood. Here are 3 things no one tells you about the toddler years.
Fill in the blank: “Motherhood is the ultimate test of _________.” A few things that come to my mind: Flexibility. Patience. Multitasking. Thinking on your feet. Vulnerability. You want to know a secret, there is no right or wrong answer. Motherhood encompasses it all. In my five years on this journey of parenthood, I’ve learned that one must expect the unexpected. As a parent, there is so much that happens that must be learned by experience and can’t be read in a book. That first year of parenting can be a breeze or it can be difficult, but one thing that is true in either scenario is that you’ll never be as prepared as you need to be, and that’s perfectly okay.
As I enter my second round at toddlerhood I’m trying to mentally prepare myself for what I can confidently say is the hardest part of motherhood. Sure, I haven’t experienced adolescence but isn’t living with a threenager the same thing, except with deodorant and hard math? For those of you entering the perils of toddlerhood for the first time, this one’s for you. For me, the first time around was a lot of trial by fire, but for round two I think I’m a little more equipped for what the next few years may hold. Here are 3 things no one tells you about the toddler years from a survivor.
3 Things They Don’t Tell you About the Toddler Years
1// Nice “things” won’t last. You know that saying, “This is why we can’t have nice things”? I’m sure it was first uttered by a momma with a rambunctious toddler. And just so you know, there is no other type of toddler – they are all rambunctious. Be prepared that almost anything “nice things” you own may get destroyed. There will be food or juice stains on your carpet, there will almost always be a sticky patch of something on the dinner table (no matter how many times you clean it), and their clothes will almost always be splattered with some unknown substance. That’s what bleach and Oxiclean is for, am I right?!
2// Dinnertime is the worst. Actually, any time that the tiny human needs to be fed is the worst. Sometimes they won’t eat and sometimes they’ll eat everything on their plate and ask for seconds. There will be days that they’ll get out of their seat every five seconds and days that even their favorite meal won’t get them to finish their plate – mealtime is always a gamble and a true test in patience. But know this, no matter what, there’s always room for a snack.
3// The terrible twos don’t exist. I’ve talked about it before, but why do veteran parents warn of the terrible twos when the threenage years are far, far worse. I’m already preparing myself for the tantrums, the negotiating, and the fact that my sweet, sweet boy will be challenging me at every corner. Because that’s what they do and I have to remember that kids do it because they are learning and experiencing this world for the first time.
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