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On a daily basis I ask myself whether or not I’m living up to be the mother that Remy needs. Am I a good mom? That question plagues me day in and day out. I don’t want to raise children that resent me. I don’t want to raise children that turn out to be murders (jk, but really). I want to raise children that have good hearts, that are kind, that are empathetic to others’ feelings, that make change in the world. The first step in doing all of the above? Begin a good mom.
But I’ve learned that there is no right way to be a good mom. There will be bad days. There will be hardship. There will be discontent. But there will also be joy. There will also be laughter. There will also be unconditional love. And that unconditional love is just that, unconditional of your situation, of your baggage, of the ugliness in the world. That love is what will be the barometer so don’t compare your mothering to that of other mothers. Doing what I need to do to love and care for my family – that’s what make a me a good mother. That’s what makes you a good mother, too. Trying and showing up day in and day out, that’s what makes a good mom.
So mamma, today I leave you with this: You are a good mother. You are the mother that your children need, even if it doesn’t seem like it all the time. Please remember that a good mom can never be defined by another mom. Or by social media. Or by that parenting book you’ve got sitting on your bedside table. You are a good mother because you believe you are, and I believe you are too.
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