I’m am so excited to have guest posting for FabAve today real life friend, blogger, photographer, and momma of two Brittany of Brittany’s Notebook! Today she will be sharing some things that she wishes would have been imparted to here when she first became a mom. And without further adieu Brittany!
I am so excited for Joanne and her new baby and flattered she asked me to guess post! I thought I would share a few things I wish somebody would have shared with me when I first became a mother myself.
Becoming a new mom is such an exciting experience, and even after having two of my own, there are so many things I am beginning to understand and realize. Women have the ability to create these amazing, perfect little bodies and then go on to shape and mold them into whatever it is we hope they might become. As a mom, you are the one who has that sweet, intimate influence on your precious child that no other person has. Cherish that. Especially those first few days or even weeks. Daily responsibilities might come knocking, but spend as much time as possible getting to know your new babe. Take pictures; write memories, SNUGGLE! Sure, the toilet might need a little bit of scrubbing, but it can wait because this is such a once in a lifetime experience!
It is no secret that raising children is a difficult task. The most rewarding things in life are always the ones that require the most work. This is so true for family relationships! so if you find yourself thinking, “Wow, this is kind of difficult" then know that you are completely normal, and you are doing just fine!!! I have found it important to always focus on the good, because it is so easy to feel like we will never measure up to that “super-mom" next door. No mother is perfect. Each has her own set of strengths and weaknesses, so use your strengths to your advantage and don’t sweat about your weaknesses. It’s part of being human!
Yes, your babe is number one, but I believe so strongly to fully be able to care for another, you must care for yourself as well. Simplicity is truly the highest form of sophistication, so don’t overwhelm yourself with meaningless tasks. It is also important to have a little personal time. Whether it is reading a good book or working out at the gym. It will clear your mind and help you feel more capable! So don’t feel guilty if you have the need to splurge on an occasional pedicure.
Also, your marriage is still #1. As husband and wife, decide together how you wish for your child to be raised. It is hard when you come from different backgrounds, but take the best of both worlds and toss the rest. Weekend date nights are a MUST! I sometimes miss those days of always having alone time together, but when we have a babysitter and something planned for the weekend it brings so much more excitement into our relationship. We get to have an amazing evening with each other, but by the time when return home we are so excited to be with our children. (It is also a great excuse to get all dolled up) Continue nurturing your relationship and creating memories with your spouse! I am a strong believer in yearly honeymoons as well. Let this new partnership as parents strengthen your marriage!
Last but not least, never underestimate your power or influence as a mother. It is the most important job in the world. Careers, fancy homes, travel are all great things, but they only last for a moment. Your love and influence as a mom will go on into generations.
Congrats again to Joanne! She is such a sweetheart, and I already know she will be such an amazing mom!!!
This is such a sweet post from Brittany and great advice for someone like me, who seems to get overwhelmed quite easily. Thanks Brittany, I’ll be using this post as guidance;)